beautiful living


I did not choose life in Lagos. My heart has always been firmly implanted in London. Nevertheless, lately I’ve been thinking that it isn’t so terrible of fate to have chosen this city for me.

Alex and I, and two of his friends,left the overwhelming hustle of the city, for the quietude of fauna and the sea. We stayed in a tree house cabin, where we watched ships dock from afar, as we drank beers and wine into the evening. We supped on grilled corn, mozzarella and cherry tomato salad, a potato salad and a fish bought at the market by the dock. We played card games and I lost in succession. We showered outside in the dark of the night,scrubbing our bodies fast, to get out of sight, feeling refreshed by the cool air and water.

Alex and I walked to a secluded beach late in the evening and early the next morning, before grilling some bread, garlic and aubergine for breakfast. Just walking, being intrinsic with the landscape was sublime. And yet we were spectators who watched crabs burrowing in the sand, stray animals grazing and shipwreck debris floating. I can report that observing nature remains as elusively numinous as it has always felt.

I have not written here in 9 weeks. That period of time was spent meeting and dating Alex and growing my personal art collection. I also received a fantastic job offer within the art world, which I rejected,because the timing was not ideal and I want to grow in my present position, just a bit longer. Nevertheless,seeds of confidence were planted within me and thankfully that window of opportunity remains ajar.

The boy spent 3 weeks in Paris, The Hague and Barcelona. It seemed the perfect time to replace the pleasure of his company with my great love,literature. I especially enjoyed reading Jhumpa Lahiri’s The Namesake, Rebecca Solnit’s Women Explain Things to Me,The Summer that Melted Everything by Tiffany McDaniel(a little haphazard and too ambitious) and Big Little Lies (despite the somewhat pathetic ‘desperate housewives’ story line). I had been craving prose and poetry and reading Rupi Kaur’s Milk and Honey in one sitting, was just what I needed last week.



I made it back to London just in time to witness the first day of snow. How charming,yet so bitterly cold. I am terribly glad to be here, but my mind still wanders to last week’s trip to Charleston,South Carolina and in particular Sullivan’s Island. Was it really a few days ago, that on a dark late eveing, my friend and I drove to the island? it almost feels like a dream.


I stood and stared at the sea and then we met a sweet old man,who was the only other person on the beach. He helped us sight a dolphin and showed us pictures on his phone of previous sunsets he had captured. I walked around and took pictures of anything I thought interesting.


I suggested we take off our shoes,so I took my boots off and squealed at the feeling of the cold icy water stinging my warm feet. We sat on a rock and watched the slight sunset.


How beautiful it was. The earlier rain had made the sea restless and the waves kept teasing us with little splashes. The splashes grew stronger and closer, until we were soaked and our flip flops were washed away by the strong tide.We searched for them to no avail. So we ran back to the car with wet clothes clinging to our bodies and numb sandy feet. It was little short of perfect.